Whilst we can often be a good advocate for another person, we also need to be able to practice self-advocacy. Self-advocacy is our ability to effectively communicate, argue and assert our needs, rights and best interests. In order to be effective self-advocates we need to have self-knowledge and honestly identify our strengths and weaknesses, rights and responsibilities and our needs and aspirations. As individuals this skill will help us to make informed decisions and also take full responsibility for those decisions. Do you have the skills to be a good advocate?

Everyone needs to hear both sides of the story when making a decision. The pros and the cons need to be constructively weighed before taking action that will direct you closer to being able to master success.

Yet, if you are always embracing the role of Devil’s Advocate, you may be taking actions that are contrary to your goal to master success. For when individuals takes this position of Devil’s Advocate, they are potentially putting limitations on their thought processes. The Yeah Butts are all about self imposed limitations.

Thoughts like this will not work because begin to creep into their brains. The focus shifts from what is possible to what is not possible. And let’s be honest, the word devil is about negative behaviors and not positive ones.

What would happen if you began to embrace the role of Angel’s Advocate where you look at both sides and determine what would work better instead of looking at both sides to determine what will not work? Since the word Angel is considered positive, would this new position or role of Angel’s Advocate create a different way of thinking?

One of my favorite quotes is by Marcel Proust who said that: The true voyage of discovery is not seeking new landscapes, but seeing with new eyes.

ADHD advocacy is a nascent trend in the mental health industry. For years, children struggled without advocacy support while trying to cope in social environments and in the classroom. ADHD clinicians began to heed the call for advocacy, but their role was limited to medical education for parents and education personnel. National ADHD advocacy organizations have been effective in lobbying politicians for ADHD laws, especially in the areas of education and the workplace. National organizations have a macro sphere of influence, not the micro attention to detail that is parental ADHD advocacy.

Parents are the only true advocate for ADHD children. Their sphere of influence ranges from medications to ensuring education equity. While researching ADHD is a positive first step in becoming an advocate, knowledge of the condition is not enough to make an impact on an ADHD child’s life. Parents must become involved and make the commitment to advocate for their child. Here are some important areas that demand parental ADHD advocacy:

Recognizing the signs

ADHD education begins with recognizing the complicated signs of the condition. By complicated, I mean that some symptoms of ADHD mirror other disorders like anxiety and depression.

The best place to research ADHD symptoms is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV). The manual provides a general list of 18 symptoms and the requisite criteria for making an ADHD diagnosis. Dr. Daniel Amen breaks down the 18 symptoms further by providing a detailed list of symptoms in checklist form.

Parental ADHD advocacy is ineffective if parents do not understand the basic symptoms of the condition.

ADHD clinician testing and evaluation

An ADHD diagnosis is a two-step process. Parents must make it a three-step process by carefully scrutinizing a list of clinician candidates. I recommend choosing a clinician based on your friends or family practitioner referral.

Parental ADHD advocacy involves creating a list of questions for each clinician candidate. Questions should include:

* How do you make a diagnosis?
* Do you have references?
* What is your position on ADHD medications?

Parents are usually involved in the second step of the diagnosis process, which entails the attendance of a significant other. Parents should also participate in the first step of the process. The first step is a series of psychological tests that determine if a second consultation is warranted. Parental ADHD advocacy during this step is observing how the clinician conducts the tests. Moreover, parents must eliminate any clinician who aggressively pushes ADHD medications during the first step.

ADHD Medications

The purest form of parental ADHD advocacy is understanding one fact: ADHD medications do not cure ADHD. The medications are prescribed to mitigate the symptoms. They are not a panacea, and there are other options that help children manage ADHD. The same concern for illicit drug use should be applied to the prescription of a stimulant narcotic for an underdeveloped human being.

If parents decide that ADHD medications are the best course of action, they must be vigilant when it comes to monitoring their child’s prescription. Side effects occur when a child takes the wrong dosage during the wrong time of day. This usually happens at school, so parents must clearly communicate their child’s ADHD medication regimen with a school nurse and administrators. They must also ensure that the medication does not fall into the hands of other children who are looking for a stimulant “high.”

Above all, parental ADHD advocacy means promoting the alternative treatments for the symptoms. This may entail banging heads with the clinician. Banging heads is a good thing when your child’ health is involved.

Exercise

The physical and mental benefits of a regular exercise routine far outweigh ADHD medications. Exercise is a long-term solution for rampant hyperactivity. ADHD medications are a quick fix that introduces potent chemicals into a child’s system.

Parental ADHD advocacy for exercise is more about changing a child’s sedentary lifestyle. Parents should encourage their children to refrain from playing video and computer games. The encouragement needs to start at a young age, when unhealthy habits are easier to change.

The ADHD establishment continually dispels the theory that too much television causes ADHD. While television does not directly cause ADHD, lying around without significant periods of exercise exacerbates the condition’s symptoms. Parents are the first line of defense to prevent a sedentary lifestyle from firmly taking root in a child’s lifestyle.

Diet and Nutrition

Sugar was once considered a contributor to ADHD symptoms. Once again, ADHD science seems to dispel the sugar attribution as myth. Nonetheless, a healthy diet based on nutritional components is, like exercise, an integral part of maintaining a healthy body and mind.

Parents may not have a stronger advocacy role for their ADHD children than the decisions they make about sustenance. Fast food is out. Fruits, vegetables, and fish rich in Omega fatty acids are in.

Competitive Sports

Many parents operate under the false assumption that sports participation curtails impulsiveness and hyperactivity. The energy released during a sport competition will calm an ADHD child. The problem, however, is distraction is a characteristic that ruins athletic performance.

Enrolling an ADHD child in sporting leagues is an excellent strategy to circumvent the mind numbing games played in front of television and computer screens. True parental ADHD advocacy means thoroughly explaining to the child’s coach what exactly constitutes the condition known as ADHD. Most coaches are amenable to adapting their coaching style in order to promote an ADHD child’s strengths.

Advocacy also means not pushing your child into a sport that he or she does not enjoy. Find the right sport and encourage the child to participate in it until they reach a level of superior performance or lose interest all together.

Education

A child’s ADHD diagnosis is often the result of school performance. Teacher and administrators notice the child’s distraction and hyperactivity, and bring the behavior to the attention of the parents. Parental ADHD advocacy for a child’s education achievement is irrefutably mandatory.

Pay attention to how the school system makes changes to enhance your child’s learning capability. Knowing ADHD laws is a start, but constant monitoring of your child’s performance and persistent insistence that the school adheres to ADHD laws strengthens parental ADHD advocacy. Part of Mark Norris`s work consists of developing a strong partnership between parents and academic professionals. With the parents consent, he organizes school meetings and follow ups with them, their child and the academic team involved in the child’s success. An objective and detailed portrait of the child’s strengths and challenges is presented and when necessary, classroom accommodations are established.

Parents can also provide a nurturing environment at home, where one-on-one tutoring complements the instruction given in school. The ultimate strategy in parental ADHD advocacy is to instruct your child in a home school environment.

Political System

Political advocacy means becoming involved in ADHD organizations that push legislators to write ADHD friendly legislation. At the very least, involvement in ADHD organizations will allow you to stay abreast of legal status changes that affect your child.

Parent Coaching

ADHD coaching is a growing industry. Most of the attention given to this alternative method for managing ADHD is how a coach benefits adults. Parent coaching is not about mentoring your child. It is about taking courses and assimilating information from a certified ADHD coach.

Parent coaching places you in the student’s role. You learn many strategies on developing your child’s strengths and mitigating the more onerous ADHD symptoms. Mark Norris is at the forefront of this invaluable movement. He has developed a comprehensive site dedicated to the issue and a detailed coaching program that he implements for adults.

Four to six percent of the United States population is estimated to have ADHD. Recent trends indicate the percentages will sharply increase. Most of the increase is due to the burgeoning diagnosis rate among children. As the rate continues to rise, parents must be aware of the advocacy responsibilities they inherit as their child navigates the turbulent waters of ADHD.

Advocacy means involvement. Involvement does not happen unless you have a deep commitment for your ADHD child’s progress.